men and if he shows signs of this “red flag”… well, I quickly rule
him out as a potential dating partner.
woman does this as well…. But you also want to make certain that
you aren’t guilty of it- because, unfortunately, it’s a common
reaction men have (biologically & through evolution) which can
create an unhealthy relationship/ marriage.
you about a man I met in Virginia who I was working on a project
with, but I found sexually interesting. One day I went to lunch
with him and up until that lunch, I had witnessed him as being
confident, authoritative, secure and pleasant… but when he
stepped inside the pizzeria and was placed in unfamiliar
surroundings, he became bullish & egotistical… a complete,
complete turn off.
Valentine’s Day, and I told him that I already had plans to have
cocktails with a few of my female friends, and besides, I didn’t
think it would be wise to go on a “date” when we’re both working on
this project together. Truth of the matter is, is if I hadn’t seen
him act this way at that pizzeria, then I would have strongly
considered the date with him.
outburst” at the pizzeria was small potatoes and nothing to worry
about. And, up until recent years, I thought the same and would
have (most likely) ignored it.
multiple female friends, have been placed in some uncomfortable and
even dangerous situations with men while traveling, I now look
closely at how a man handles himself in an unfamiliar environment-
be it a grocery store, restaurant, one of my friend’s houses,
egotism (ego & fear, two sides, one coin) while placed in a simple
yet different environment- then that man stands a good chance of
NOT being any fun on a vacation or anytime travel is required… not
to mention anytime we go to a new & different restaurant.
who was extremely charismatic and very much a “renaissance man”,
who lived on some acreage and played polocrosse, fished, made goods
from leather and wood, played the violin, and tutored students in
French and Spanish. I thoroughly enjoyed going to his house for
dinner. On a nice evening, he grilled fish outside and we sat under
the stars drinking wine, eating various aged cheeses, and listening
(for the most part, at least 90% of the time). But, multiple times,
when we met at a restaurant or tried a new place or event… hold on
tight… because he would become this snooty, sensitive mass of
flesh that was embarrassing and downright rude.
There was NO WAY we could travel together. So, for several months
we only went to the places he knew, we only did things with his
friends (I did things with my friends by myself), and we only went
to theater and music venues he was familiar with AND it was a show
that he wanted to see & was his idea.
controlling, oppressive and yes…. abusive.
been to and I enjoy placing a man in an unfamiliar environment-
it’s a “test” that I give to see how he holds up.
embarrassed, or he shows signs of not feeling secure if a woman
doesn’t necessarily “need him” in her life… it’s over.
restaurant, asks polite questions when he isn’t sure of something,
isn’t afraid to try something new & different, and carries on a
conversation that demonstrates security and confidence… then I’ll
happily go on more dates with him…. And possibly to a foreign
indicative of our personalities and personal inclinations. Whatever you choose to call it, I think we all agree that this energy is very real, even if we’re not sure how to channel it.
ride with you. I’m just trying to highlight a concept with you that relates to dating.